another long but good day. After camp took D9 to track night, her dad loves those and I promised him I would take her if she wanted, and she did. It was 100 degrees so glad to be home.
H is one of the fastest runners in town, and in the track club, and most of them are friends with him, so I felt really out of my element today, and with the whole you know everything, I felt like a mutant when I got there. One of H's friends said hi to D9 and nothing to me. But I just was friendly and polite to his friends that I saw. One of them was friendly back. I'm sure he must say awful stuff about me to justify the OWs and stuff. But just held my head up and did my best, and it wasn't too bad. And there were some friendly people that prob. don't know H so that was good & fun to see D9 race (she's kind of slow but tries really hard.) Karen
I think I got good news from the evaluator of the kids. We went through the reports. She had some suggestions I could give/ask the OT and stuff. Her recommendation for the kids, and this is a pro-public school person who thinks kids can just get social skills through public school that she would recommend only an hour or 2 a day in public school and in a self-contained special needs classroom or if not, with an aide or assistant for them. But said S15 would have a lot of transition problems and stuff. I was planning on having him attend community college in 1 year (when he's a junior in high school is the earliest they allow) and then sign him up for one or 2 classes to start with.
I don't see how the reports will help H. D9 is now seeing psych, therapist, OT. Because of the new recommendations I'm also going to take D9 to the speech therapist weekly. And possibly an hour or 2 a day at public school. It's almost like he's made it almost more difficult for me to work full-time which I think was his ultimate goal. I'm thinking the report may help me more than H. Basically she was saying they have major processing difficulties, motor planning, organizational issues, etc. Karen
Is today mediation too or when is it? I am glad that you have a professional that your H so wanted to take his stand has taken yours. This man I am sure is in for one rude awakening. The kids need to be at the forefront of the decisions that are being made in this divorce. S15 will most likely need support past the age of 18 and I don't see how anyone in their right mind would think that should be your burden alone. You have great kids and they deserve someone as great as you on their side.
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Me-53(and learning!) S24, S21, D18, D17 Just keep swimming, Just keep swimming. Dory
Mediation is going on the 29th, and the L wants to have me come in Thursday or Friday next week. So you think the tester was positive/supportive for my side? I was thinking so, esp. b/c she said she really couldn't recommend public school or homeschool (H asked her that too she said) when I talked to her before the testing, but yet it sounds like she's suggesting only an hour or 2 of public school and not even very strong on S15 going there, which won't be helping H in his case to have me work full-time. I almost emailed him a thanks today after the meeting, b/c it helps us I think (me and the kids) and she had some good ideas and the speech recommendation. Said she won't outgrow her speech issues like most kids unless she gets therapy...But I held myself back and didn't do it. He's on vacation again btw, b/c he went out of town thursday and won't get back until Sun am.!!!
Hope all the dads here are having a great day!!! You rock!!!
H has the kids today for Father's Day, and I have many plans for the day. Kids will be back tonight, so it's a nice break for me.
I helped out painting sets and props and hot glueing at the theatre yesterday. D9 got bored after about an hour, but had fun with her friends so a good day. It was all teens and my D9(she just wanted to help out the big kids) and there was another mom there for a change, so that was nice!
Well, I had put both of D9's meds in her pack Sunday for father's day, and when I got them open to give her med in the am, one of the 2 bottles was gone. I guess left at H's house, I don't know. I emailed him 8am yesterday and he still hasn't replied back. Luckily it was almost gone and the pharmacy let me refill it. Whew! Glad I didn't have to count on him or anything. Always feels good to not have to do that. I did help the kids get a gift (candy) for their dad and helped wrap it, which he did not do this year, but I always like to be a good role model for him.
D9's cast party was today so lots of fun. They had a pool party--it's been about 103 degrees here this week! I can't wait until it cools down and goes in the 90s! Fun to talk to all the moms and all of them are supportive.
I guess I'm becoming more detached b/c lately this week I've been thinking about dating. I mean it's been almost 25 years!!! I'm thinking about reading up on it and stuff. I have no idea. But the idea doesn't depress me like it did when I thought about it a year ago or even months ago... Karen
Fun to talk to all the moms and all of them are supportive.