I think you've pointed something out very important. You may be right in that she doesn't know how to love more than one thing at a time. She didn't have a good example of it growing up and just saw her Mom doing everything.
One telling point is that she told me that when we divorced, she wouldn't go out with anyone seriously until the kids were in high school. Which is exactly what the mom did. Of course, she did chase after the OM, so I don't know how true that statement was.
I do have to find a way to break that perception of me being the "burden" and be seen as a partner/lover again. The question is how?
For now I'm going to try the GAL, attraction tips that coach/sandi suggested. They, you and everyone else was right that maybe I just need to treat her like a friend with no pressure. I just think that every time she sees me she feels "pressure" yet she doesn't leave even though she's threatened to in the past. I had already reached the point where I told her go ahead. But she hasn't.
M-43 W-40 2D - 9 and 5
Emotion, yet peace. Ignorance, yet knowledge. Passion, yet serenity. Chaos, yet harmony. Death, yet a new life.
