Thank you, stilly. I knew you'd come through with exactly what I needed to hear and do.

Originally Posted By: stillloveshim
Make it clear to her that you are not interested in divorce or anything that will make that happen. If you are not interested in going to a mediator, tell her simply. No. I will not go to a mediator. I will continue to live my life but I will not help you in ending soemthing I think is wonderful and has the potential to be even more wonderful....the envy of the neighborhood.


Boy, did I miss the obvious on this: Post-pleading stage, I've just been going along.

No. I will not be an active participant in this.

And you worded it just perfectly.

Gardener

"My soul, be satisfied with flowers,
With fruit, with weeds even; but gather them
In the one garden you may call your own."
Cyrano deBergerac