Wow, Ive been away for a while?! Im sorry that things are getting a little more stormy for you. That little moment you had sounds great.
It is inconceivable to me that these people can do the things that they do... And that we still want them! I think that often times after the A, people are so ashamed of the way that they behaved that it prevents them from coming back. I know my H eventually overcame that, but I think that its important to remember that the things shes doing are not without consequence for her.
Unfortunately, that doesnt mean that you and your kids dont also have to deal with the flaming wreckage that she leaves.
I guess I gave the wrong finger to the wrong man...