But I'll take all the advice I can get, and I'll go the whole "fall to the bottom of the well" enchilada when someone can answer this question persuasively:
2 weeks after she moves out, WAW will have custody of the children. How will a devastated, alone, miserable, suffering WAW be good for my children?
Discuss amongst yourselves.
Because based on your descriptions of her, she's a strong, capable woman, and I don't see her being "devasted, miserable and suffering" simply because you don't reassure her every time in conversation she begins to make herself vulnerable and discuss her fears and doubts.
Smiley, I'm not questioning your method. I'm only questioning the degree. I just think that SOMETIMES you should let her remain in her crucible when she expresses her doubts and fears, while still validating her similar to how I suggested it above.
