Here's the thing, she lives in her father's house so she doesn't neccessarily need OM for that. She went so far as to complain that she's sorry she need the c/s, but she is the 'main income' of the house (that's a scary thought). She referred to OM as her 'chauffer' a couple of times, this is true since she wiped out 3 cars at once with no insurance for the umteenth time.
So, she has a place, irregardless of him, and more than enough people around to get rides to and from work. As for around town, as she does now, you can walk to everything, and as much as I'd like to remind her when I see her struggling with a lot bags or what not, I did offer once to take her shopping if she needed, and once only will that offer be extended.
I want to distance myself more than I had been, but something tells me that is the wrong thing to do. Probably for the kids? And at the same, I feel that if things could work on being resolved I will be able to heal much quicker versus any more distance.
Unfortunately, I do have to provide her with an itinerary (court order) as does she. also, since I do not have the time off to have my summer visiation with them this year, I need to work with her on the scheduled vacations I do have. As it's written, I can only pick them up at 10am on the 4th, that won't work. So I'm trying to work with her to pick them up the night before.
That will enable me to do what I want on the 4th for and with them, and that's to distance ourselves from the carnage of the 'old' life we leave behind.
Me 35/XW 33 S13 & S12 M: 10/17/98 OM & S: 07/08 D final 06/09/09 12/03/09 - 06/13/10 "Piercing" 06/13/10: Engaged to Re-marry 10/17/10 06/25/10: Expecting baby #3 2/14/11
