I was doing the same as you when I'd pick up the kids and not look at her and only say what needed to be said and that was it. For that duration of time, it needed to be done and it worked and everyone was happy with it. But now, with the D final it just simply doesn't feel right.
And what do we preach? If something isn't working, try for something that does.
Do I want to be her 'best-buddy'? No, and I don't think that will possible. But what I would like is for the animosity, the bitterness and all lingering questions to be resolved once and for all. And in trying to work with her to do so, the last few days events are what I get in return and it just doesn't make sense. I don't know what she is trying to say.
The bottom line is, lives are forever changed. Hers, mine, the kids, our respective families, everyone. As such, all previous traditions are those of the past. The way we raised out boys, the way we celebrate holidays, the list could go on forever.
I did not offer her one bit of return of R talk. I stood my ground with stating the simple obvious truth of reality today, this is what you wanted, this what you got. Not to be negative in any way shape or form. I withdrew any and all negative statement I had made Monday night, asking for the simple forgiveness that she must understand, the overall cost of her actions took their toll as I'm sure they will again should she be insensitive again.
It's just so frustrating not only to question what she is trying to say, but also to question if it is believable.
Me 35/XW 33 S13 & S12 M: 10/17/98 OM & S: 07/08 D final 06/09/09 12/03/09 - 06/13/10 "Piercing" 06/13/10: Engaged to Re-marry 10/17/10 06/25/10: Expecting baby #3 2/14/11
