It takes a while to heal and I mean really heal. Not just saying I survived the divorce. When my ex comes around to pick up the kids for whatever, I can't even look at him, don't say a heck of a lot and do my own thing. No reason to make him feel comfortable. I don't do that out of bitterness but to basically keep my self with in my own own boundaries.
When R talk ever starts(for me everything is interwined, I don't get the compartmentalization that some can do)it is not a good thing. Can not go there as the memories are still too fresh.
Your ex seems to think you can still do all the same things even if OM is along for the ride. She is cake eating. Kudos to you for saying that you are going to do your thing this holiday. Time for her to see what divorce really means.
Best wishes, kat
Me-53(and learning!) S24, S21, D18, D17 Just keep swimming, Just keep swimming. Dory
