I put up a profile recently and have had emails and stuff but it all feels a bit weird! Still, my sister and friend have both met guys through internet dating. Maybe you should view it as good dating practise the more you do the more comfortable you will be!
There is a LOT of work I want to do on myself that I think will keep me out of the pool. This was an experiment in human nature and it proved exactly what I always thought unfortunately. I hate being proven right in this instance.
I have no time for dating anyway. My life is total chaos at all times and no one deserves to be pulled into the middle of that!
T19 M15 S19 XH47 M43 bomb12/4/07 PA5/07 S12/26/07 D final 11/17/08 Back together with no defined R 05/2010 confused....to say the least!!!
I've read a few dating books & it seems that men date more casually & date more women. Where as women seem to date more exclusively. Of course you can never group everyone together. Yet,I found that very interesting. I never dated much either. The thought of internet dating just scares me. Like someone else said, guess you have to look at it as finding a possible friend first.
At least your date wasn't a total disaster.
Me39, XH45 Kids 3 dogs, 2 cats Divorced 6/4/09 Tricky thing is not how you live, but how you live with yourself. (POTC)
Hey guys! Happy Father's Day to all the daddy's out there!
I'm feeling a little weird and pissed this morning though. Remember, I had the debate about asking Gabe if he wanted to spend Father's day with Marc and decided he would need to be the one to ask for that. Well, he never did. I had Marc call him this morning to tell him happy father's day and Gabe told Marc that his gf is taking him out to lunch for father's day. WTF??? He's not the father of her child. He's not anything other than her bf. Why would she do that? WEIRD! Why does make me so PO'd? I'm not sure. Maybe it's just that mother's day was so miserable. Yeah, maybe that's it.
I want to say something to him about his not wanted to spend the day with his son, but I'm NOT going to. I know it's not worth it, but it's such a strong impulse. I want to blast him for so many things he does, but there is no point to any of it. I know that, but it doesn't change the feelings that bubble up in me. GOSH! This just makes me sick.
T19 M15 S19 XH47 M43 bomb12/4/07 PA5/07 S12/26/07 D final 11/17/08 Back together with no defined R 05/2010 confused....to say the least!!!
Well, I know why you are pissed. And although I agree you cant tell him anything about it, the fact he spends the day with his GF and not his son sucks!!!
mish, I think your x has a price, if you know what I mean. And I think she uses her money poorly. xxx K
Ok, it's probably all the wine I've had tonight, but I'm really not sure what you mean K. Do you mean that she uses her body? Then yes, 'm sure you are right. She 'bought' a lemon.
T19 M15 S19 XH47 M43 bomb12/4/07 PA5/07 S12/26/07 D final 11/17/08 Back together with no defined R 05/2010 confused....to say the least!!!
I'm feeling a little weird and pissed this morning though. Remember, I had the debate about asking Gabe if he wanted to spend Father's day with Marc and decided he would need to be the one to ask for that. Well, he never did. I had Marc call him this morning to tell him happy father's day and Gabe told Marc that his gf is taking him out to lunch for father's day. WTF??? He's not the father of her child. He's not anything other than her bf. Why would she do that? WEIRD! Why does make me so PO'd? I'm not sure. Maybe it's just that mother's day was so miserable. Yeah, maybe that's it.
I want to say something to him about his not wanted to spend the day with his son, but I'm NOT going to. I know it's not worth it, but it's such a strong impulse. I want to blast him for so many things he does, but there is no point to any of it. I know that, but it doesn't change the feelings that bubble up in me. GOSH! This just makes me sick.
a few things I want to comment on...imagine that!!
First off I can see whay you would be pissed that Gabe did not spend any time with Marc.....but....Gabe will make the R with Marc..and you should not get in the way of that at all..in other words...it is up to Gabe to have an R with his son...and I think it's your job to be there for Marc and support him when Gabe screws it up...that's the only reason I think you should be pissed..if you're pissed cause "ho' took Gabe out for father's day then i think your letting stuff bubble that should not bubble...Gabe is a father..if someone wants to take him out for father's day then so be it, if Gabe wants to screw up his R with his son becasue of that then so be it. for you to try and figure out why she took him out or why he went is just another cheeseless tunnel for you to run through..
It's funny you should mention that Mike. I spent quite a bit of yesterday trying to analyze why I was mad because it was so unreasonable to feel that way. I did come to the conclusion that I was upset because he didn't choose to spend time he could have had with his son. He chooses her over his son time and time again and that makes me sick and angry.
You are right, it is completely his responsibility to have a R with his son. He's given up every responsibility he had in his life and apparently his son is next on the list. So be it.
Marc is my total world and frankly, if it weren't for him, I would not still be in this world. He's my only reason for living and I will love and support him with every fiber of my being. That's all I can do for him.
Marc didn't seem to care that he didn't spend any part of the day with Gabe and only spoke to him for about 2 minutes in the morning. I'm glad for that. I tried to make the day fun for him. We had a late breakfast since we all woke up FAR too late for church yesterday and then we played a card game together, went for haircuts, grocery, and then home to grill dinner and we watched the first Harry Potter movie gearing up for the release of the new movie in July. We like to watch all the preceeding movies in a series before we go back for the newest one. What can I say, we're major geeks!
T19 M15 S19 XH47 M43 bomb12/4/07 PA5/07 S12/26/07 D final 11/17/08 Back together with no defined R 05/2010 confused....to say the least!!!
Well maybe its just that a rejection of Marc is felt keenly by you and like more rejection of you.. especially as yet again he chose her over Marc, or you and Marc. I dont blame you for being hurt and annoyed at him over it and I wouldnt say it was an overreaction, feelings are still raw.
Sending you hugs.. I wish things were easier for you, Al xxx
Me:40! H:37 Together: 12yrs IDLY & left 11/07 ADs 03/08 OW 8/08 Reconciled 05/09 now married! my thread
This was an experiment in human nature and it proved exactly what I always thought unfortunately. I hate being proven right in this instance. 
