I don't see SP being "emotionally abused"; in fact, as I've said before, he seems to be handling this far better than most (which is why I think no one's been questioning his approach).
And I, in fact, normally base my advice -- whether it's "take a firm stand" or it's "take a more passive approach -- based mainly on how well the LBS is able to HANDLE a passive, pure-DB approach.
In this case, however, I'm actually saying that in spite of the fact that Smiley seems to be handling it so well, I don't think he's doing his WIFE any favors by "rescuing" her in this way.
