You know I love your mojo (and I think it needs to be taught to others, and I'm glad to see you reaching out to some of the nubes). But sometimes it seems to me like it crosses over into "rescuing" to me.
Self-confession: I would be the world's crappiest practical joker. Because as soon as I see my "victim" squirming in the least, for only a second or two, I blurt out "KIDDING!" I just can't stand the tension. I'm the same way with people, and I frequently use humor, like you do, to diffuse or "soften" the situation.
That's a gift, and sometimes it's good.
But sometimes it doesn't allow the other person to own their own moment, and to remain there in their crucible, and figure out their own chit. I see key moments in your convos with the fetching Mrs. Smiley, where she seems close to some sort of self-awareness moment, and you always diffuse it with "softening" words or "rescuing" words.
