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Not much new, but it always helps for me to update...

H got his car fixed (hooray!) and it didn't cost too much, and he's already paid me back. He came over last night - it ended up being really late (about 15 minutes before DD's regular bedtime). So he only stayed for about 45 minutes.

He didn't answer his phone when I called to see if he was still coming over, so I was fuming when he got there - I was practically in tears because he PROMISED he would still be around to see DD as much as possible, and he wasn't even being courteous enough to call... I am just worried that he will end up being one of those uninvolved divorced parents if we split up - most of our friends who have divorced do it 50/50.

Turns out it took him over an hour to get to the car dealership (he had to walk about 50 blocks (in 90 degree heat!), including stopping at home to change into tennis shoes), and then he went home and ate dinner, and then it takes about 20 minutes to get back to my house.

He said "You didn't offer to drive me to the dealership, so I had to walk."

I said "You didn't ask me to. I would have if you had asked me."

And that was that. That is something I would have done before the separation - I would have left work early to pick him up and make sure he got to there without even waiting to be asked. But part of my problem before was doing too much for him, putting myself out, and not really getting anything in return.

Positives - we've been more appreciative of the things that we do for each other since the separation (me lending money & assisting with "research" and him changing the cat box & bringing me lunch the other day). And he hugged me again before he left, it didn't throw me as much as it did the first time. I guess physical contact has to be reestablished somewhere.

He's out of town for today and tomorrow for his army stuff... Tonight I'm taking DD out to a bar/grill with the rest of my family to celebrate my late brother's birthday (he would have been 27 today) and tomorrow my new furniture is coming, I might take DD to a parade, and then I'm going out to a party with friends while she stays with grandma & grandpa for a little while. Thinking about going to church too, since I have to be a parishioner somewhere in order to get DD into Catholic school in a few years!