Hmmm. Not sure I agree. Not about calmly saying that you know everything that is going on, but about telling her to leave. I think I would point out the agreement you had, that you are not alright with what she is doing, you know she is doing X, and that you do not respect her for it. Then turn on your heal and let her stew.
Wow...that sounds like a devastating attack (Not). I consider it the best thing for me that I asked my wife to leave and she did. Yeah, she was out of the house...but at least I could respect myself for not accepting what she was doing. Had your husband stayed, it would have been just more of the same....cheating until he got the nerve to leave on his own without your nudge. If he really didn't want to go, do you really think he would have left because you told him to?
You cannot be lonely if you like the person you're alone with. Dr. Wayne Dyer
