Why not?

[antlers]

I think we all have our insecurities and our demons and when the going gets rough, some people cave into whatever those darker characteristics are.

It is sad to watch someone I love act like a caricature...he had some of these traits but they were just spokes of a many faceted wheel, now it is like the id is on steroids. But, he is toiling and he is trying in his own way.

Honestly, I'm closer and closer to just wanting no contact...I don't know, it is sad. I mean the clearer I get, the more compassion I have and the more I just feel sorry for him.

But, on the upside, I'm still feeling pretty good!

Hi aliveandkicking.

Compassion is the answer. Compassion for yourself, as well as compassion for others. You not only have to care about your hurt, and others...you have to have the will to do something about it. True compassion stays...regardless of how others treat you. I want you to know that it is possible for people, such as your husband, to change for the better. I speak from personal experience here...but said individual has to want to change, and be committed to doing it...for it to occur. Compassion is the antidote for anger, resentment, and abuse. Again, I speak from personal experience. You are a strong gal, and you help a lot of people here with your posts. We appreciate you. I hope things will improve with you, and I hope you get what your heart desires. I think miracles can still happen, especially when people put into practice the good information we learn here, from others, and from the books. It's sound logic.