I think you need to remember, yes, they are kids, but they are PEOPLE with feelings. You can't really make them do certain things....it might be worse in the long run. But this is a very gray area. TELL the kids you are going to call Mommy, so get ready to talk to her in just a second. Maybe have a topic for them to talk to her about.....the seven year old got an A on a spelling quiz, whatever it maybe. Don't ask them anymore. I say it's a gray area because you don't need accusations that you are keeping her from speaking with Mommy. But as for last night, no, you can't force them to do something like that because they might hurt her feelings by being honest...."I didn't want to call you but daddy made me...." As for things seemingly going poorly right now for everyone here....I read a weird article that more couples will reconcile during the cold winter months than in the hot summer months.....the article suggested it's like crime....crime goes down in the winter because everyone is home and not out in the cold. But in the summer, you can go out and committ crimes in a more comfortable climate. In the winter you want to snuggle at home, in the summer you want to go out and enjoy the outdoors.....interesting....who really knows? Stay strong. No more talk about divorce. CHANGE THE SUBJECT immediately. She wants to bring up the kids thinking she's the bad guy simply remind her: They are people with their own minds. Neither one of us should assume what they are thinking now or what they will think 20 years from now. then change the subject.
