I feel rejection when my H comes to bed, and turns over to go to sleep w/out a kiss, a hug, or anything else.And when I hug him he pats my back almost like he would pat a dog
I feel rejection when my H doesn’t greet me w/warmth (upon return from out of town), as he does our children.But approaches me carefully and tunrs his face so that we kiss on the cheek.
I feel rejection when my H doesn’t pay ANY compliments to me (physically). (He used to.)When I get all dressed up and my 7yr old asks him "doesnt mom look pretty?" and he nods his head without looking at me
I feel rejection when my H forwards emails of a semi-sexual nature to others, when he shows no interest in anything of a sexual nature at home.I dont think he has any sexual desire in general. If he does, it's not around me.
I feel rejection when my H makes excuses to not do something alone with me. And avoids every attempt or suggestion I make to spend time alone WITHOUT the kids.
I feel rejection when my H “gives up” on our common friends. It makes me feel like he’s rejecting our marital history. My H doesnt do that. But he does comment on how happy 2 particular couples are, always with a way that means "they were lucky" while I am thinking "stupid, our happiness is RIGHT HERE, work with me!!!!"
I feel rejection every time I change in my bathroom, knowing it’s awkward now to change in front of him. Although we dont live together, I do change in front of him. And his face shows me he couldnt care less
I feel rejection every time I remember it’s been two years since he told me he has no desire for me. He just told me the other night, "that's the way I am, sex doesnt mean much to me"
I feel rejection when my H looks at me w/those blank eyes. Not anymore. The eyes were blank. Now they are the eyes of my... brother.
I feel rejection every day he continues to work out of town, and not hire someone to do his job, because he’s rejecting being at home with us. Everytime he says he cant "try" for us because of time because of his 18 hrs days and he wont change that because he needs the money to feel safe.H etold me his work makes him feel he is good at something. My reply was, he was and can be good as my husband, as a father if he chooses to. That he is precious to me an dour kids and that is not connected to how much money he makes. It seemed to help. He started IC and stopped after 3-4 sesions when she requested everyday actions from him. I am sorry for him
I feel rejection every time one of my friends makes a joke about their H’s and their “annoying” over-abundant sexual desire. For years I thought their H's had one track minds. I know now, they are just normal men that desire their wives -insert light bulb-
I feel rejection is the core of my being right now. I dont allow that. What he does, doesnt define me. I struggle with it, to stay differentiated (as in Passionate Marriage). It's very important to me. If I lose that, I will be lost. Mindblank, try to separate what he does and how it makes you feel, from who you are and what you feel about yourself. They dont define us.In my case, my H is a lost little man,that cant even define himself, his needs, dream, enjoy life. Why on earth should I let HIM define my value, what I am worth? There are moments of weakness, reminding me of the bomb era when I stay away thinking "is this what I deserve?". You know what? That's bullshit. I deserve a normal, -and boring- loving, sensual, fullfilling life. And that's what I will have. One way or another. I am not settling.
