First off, I doubt she was interested in boss for sex (mind-reading, projecting, speculating, I like breaking the rules ). I think she wanted to feel womanly and like she was "enough" AND, I think she resented being there and was easy prey.
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I don't know if she's now conditioned herself to think that she could only want sex with me if she drank.
Well, sadly, it got to the point where I felt nauseous when we ML. How awful is that??? A drink would help but I didn't want to drink that much. And what it did to his self-esteem, yikes!
The good news Stuck, it is not lack of attraction (trust me, it all came back after the bomb and missing him ). It was the wall between us and the adversarial nature of our R. I did not feel safe with him. There may be some warped trauma insecurity abandonment thing too.
I think, at least in my sitch, I felt like H could have sex even if we were loathing each other and the sky was falling. Somehow, I needed to feel like we were on the same team and I didn't. I felt like he was just unloading...but enough about that sad story.
Another idea. Do you have a list of things that need to be done? House related, kid related, anything? Can you think of things where you can in a very very subtle way work as a team? Just thinking out loud here.
). I think she wanted to feel womanly and like she was "enough" AND, I think she resented being there and was easy prey.
). It was the wall between us and the adversarial nature of our R. I did not feel safe with him. There may be some warped trauma insecurity abandonment thing too. 
