and we LIKE you...so this is a 2 x 4, okay? And if she wished she could have stayed home...um, that's HUGE b/c we all feel it as women. I'm a "career women's libber" blah blah blah and had no idea that children would be so demanding/wonderful etc and yes I DID want to stay at home after awhile. And after our 3rd one, I did. H resented it a bit and that was a whole other issue but for now, suffice to say that to a woman, childrearing is a big big thing and I am grateful to h for enabling me to stay at home when I did. (I'll tell him that more often too) but in truth since he was gone SO MUCH, It seemed insane to have me working full time too (so they'd have no parents with them...) Anyhow, it irked me a lot to have h talk about money when I was at home as if I was home eating bon bons while he slaved...
Being a sahm is a big deal and it's humbling and an honor and I recall people saying when I stopped practicing law for a few years to stay at home, WTH are you doing? (Mostly women said that btw...) I was "not rewarded" by society, but was amply rewarded by the children we have. H missed so much. Glad I didn't miss all of those moments, but I think you are really glossing over stuff that she gave up by going back to work. Easy for you to say "not too hard for her to go back to work..." and as it turns out it wasn't worth it to you. But anyhow, enough for now. You have some thinking to do and btw, maybe don't analyze her so much as work on yourself okay? Lots of mind reading going on...
((( hugs )))
j-
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
