Actually after she gave birth and even before, not to sound modest, but I think I did pretty well in terms of seeing to her needs for the pregnancy. I just felt that was my job.
I cooked, cleaned, changed diapers, fed the baby, let her sleep in, and even got up in the middle of the night the same time she did to keep her company until she went back to bed.
And in terms of the ML at that time, I told her that we wouldn't do it until she was ready. So it was about 2 months after the second birth that we had sex again because she felt ready.
I guess after the second one, the sex was getting less frequent. I honestly can't remember when the last time she initiated. Although it could also be because she was getting emotionally attached to the OM. It was a couple of months right after our second Ds one year birthday that she told me that she had feelings for her boss and wanted to D.
Just prior to that, she would take a drink to "get in the mood" and I told her I wish she wouldn't keep doing that. After the bomb, she flipped it around and said I "forced" her to drink to get her horny. Now that's warped. I don't know if she's now conditioned herself to think that she could only want sex with me if she drank. Since she's moved back, she hasn't touched alcohol in my presence at all even casually.
"You didn't think the lack of sex was related to the baby's birth and subsequent needs and your wife's physical and emotional and energy changes???"
hey what can I say? I'm a guy. Plus, since I left it up to her when she felt ready, I figured it was okay.
M-43 W-40 2D - 9 and 5
Emotion, yet peace. Ignorance, yet knowledge. Passion, yet serenity. Chaos, yet harmony. Death, yet a new life.
