I think what's rare is someone talking about a potential EA or PA and then stopping and saying "wait a minute! what am I thinking? maybe there's something wrong with my R to begin with and that's why I'm having these thoughts. I should work on my own M"
I did that more than once. It is part of living in a world full of temptation and recognizing that the M commitment is not a negotiable item. I know other women who have done this too. But, it may be beside the point.
