WAW - Very confused and devastated - pt 10

[MrBond]

No you shouldn't have called her.

Dude you are in a real bad slump with the job loss whammy. I know what it's like. It's not helping much when your W is putting you even more down.

Next time your W even says the word "I still want..." hang up the phone. Don't even give her the time of day. Hang up, sigh (because you know she's not going to change right now), then go out and do something.

You don't have to do anything that costs money, but just "live".

These periods of adversity are the times that show how strong you really can be. It's the what doesn't kill you makes you stronger mentality.

I know you're hurting because right now you need the support of someone who cares for what you're going through. Right now it's not your W. I felt the same way when my W was indifferent towards my job. My W didn't even call me to ask if I still had my job. So when my grandmother went into her surgery and I felt down, I already knew I couldn't depend on my W. Just myself.

Stop and take a look at what you have right now. RIGHT NOW. Look what's right in front of you. You've got your brains, you've got two healthy kids and you've got the guts to be the man it takes to do what you have to do.

Have you ever seen the movie "Pursuit of Happyness"? That shows you what fathers can and will do.

You say your kids are watching you right now. When they grow up to become men themselves, what image do you want them to remember you by? The sullen, sulking dad, or the one who stood strong and fought for them. My Ds know what I am. What about you?