confused.....want to do something.....

[judyc]

Orchid,

I know how confusing it is, anticipating H's visit. I would agree with the others, and try not to initiate any R talk, although it will be hard. Regarding the food, I would just keep some snacks on hand and see how things go. You could always run to the store if you decide to cook something more elaborate.

One word of caution - if you enjoy having a glass of wine or two with dinner, be careful. The last time I saw my H, after my first glass of wine (on an empty stomach) I said some things I should not have said, which did not help the situation, in fact, probably hurt it. You need to have a clear head - I recommend refraining from alcohol consumption if possible.

Regarding the wedding ring, you just have to go with your gut feeling. Yes, technically you are married, but do you FEEL like you're married? After asking myself this question the other day, I stopped wearing my wedding ring.