Divorce looming #14

[ManofGod34]

K4D, Focus on improving yourself and your relationship with your children. The enemy will keep wounding your heart if you focus on what your W's behavior. Keep your eyes on God and not on the lies, tricks and deceptions of Satan. The enemy wants to destroy our faith in God and think our marriage will be over. I have took a stand that my M can still be resurrected even after a D. For God hath not given us the spirit of fear;but of power,love and a sound mind. 2 Timothy 1:7. Fear takes away our faith, authority in Jesus and puts negative thoughts in our mind.

I can relate to everything you going through brother. Everybody thinks I'm crazy because I'm standing for my M. I'm standing with you too for your marriage to be restored and built on the rock "Jesus" too.

[FaithfulH]

She seemed hardly unphased by it....She said a short thanks and hardly paid attention to me.

And you didn't let it bother you, right? Kevin, you know that you have to believe....I mean REALLY believe that you are doing all of this for you and you alone....and not to get a reaction from your W. That would be manipulation and control...and that is what got alot of us (particularly us guys) in the situations we face. You are doing great....don't think the thoughts or write the words about your W's reactions. Focus on YOU for now! Yes, this will benefit your W and your girls too....but, that is not why you do it. Right now is the time to focus on becoming the best K4D that you can become. Keep up the PMA! OK, let's start a contest to help Kevin with his new thread title. I've got a few:

• Out of the Pit for Good
• No more 2x4's
• K4D Rising
• Becoming a Better Me

ManofGod34...you're welcome! I'm glad the detachment link helped you as well.

[K4D]

FaithfulH,

I thought about it briefly. But then had to realize, this is only a starting point at this point. I'm not any where down the road on this path. I have only really just begun this journey in the way I should.

I finished reading your thread. What an amazing inspiration. I do believe, not just want, but do believe that my M will be restored with time if I walk the real walk of faith with God how he wants me to be. I know that I will be tested severely. I realize that this is a road that I have gone down the wrong path on at times that is now time to change and stay straight on. And that means working on me for the greater good and truly giving the space needed for God to work with.

One thing that I have to remind myself is that Satan will use my own weaknesses and fears against me until I overcome them with faith in God. I have to be prepared and ready for that from this day forward. I also have to make sure like you say that I am in no way trying to control or manipulate anything. That gets us into a HUGE mess. It has me. I have to step back and let God take charge. I cannot step in and take charge at any point or I will be right back to square one. I don't want to be back to square one ever again.

One of many things that you said that makes a lot of sense is to not rely on people for your faith, but rely on your own faith in God. It may have been your W that said it. But its right. I think what happens in people's lives should be a continued inspiration of the power and glory of God. It should be a reminder to us to keep our faith in God and that everything is possible through him.

I admit I felt a little anxious this morning, just a bit after talking to W. I know that will come and go. I admit that my journey looks like an impossible one when I think back to everything I did and where W is right now and where I am and have been. But its not impossible. Patience, Patience, Patience, Detachment, great faith, and working on me.

Here are some additional threads we could vote on...

Walking on faith
Building my faith
Turning the corner
God is my rock
I'm a believer
Leaving the shadows behind

Also thanks MOG34, I'm with you.

Kevin

[Puppy Dog Tails]

Kevin,

You sound strong. No real advice for you, other than to not get discouraged and to keep on with your newfound humility and changes.

I've also found that sometimes it helps to go back and re-read what people have posted to you in the past, when perhaps your head wasn't in a place where you were ready to hear it. I haven't followed you long, but I think I would be safe in guessing that you've had some excellent advice already, but haven't always (ever??) followed it.

Peace,

Puppy

[CityGirl]

I like what I am hearing. I like it very much.

And I agree that now you are on a different "thinking path" you should go back and read ALL the old posts to you (2x4's and all) because you seem to be in a better place to possibly accept and/or absorb what was being posted to you.

Remember how I told you that my psych. requires ALL his patients to follow a mandatory 4 part plan?

*Medication to act as a bridge to physically feeling better
*Counseling
*Emotional Support
*Spirituality (in whatever form you choose that to be)

I am not a dr. nor do I pretend to be but I think his plan holds quite a bit of merit and I know what wonders it has done for me. So I hope you consider following a plan sort of like mine. One aspect is not more important that any of the others and with some effort and dedication all four parts will begin to work together and you will start to feel, see and accept things in a new way.

JMO.

[K4D]

No votes yet on a new thread name?

I finished reading "how to save your marriage alone" today. It was very insightful. Right now is our slow period at work.

FaithfulH and I are going to start a prayer group in Dallas and would welcome anyone that wants to join. We will meet once a month at a resturant for prayer and fellowship.

I have my kids tonite so it looks like another night of swimming and tidying up the apartment.

Kevin

[aliveandkicking]

No votes yet on a new thread name?

Don't you get it?? Your thread, your name, you choose...you're telling us something about you, right?

[K4D]

Good point.

Kevin

[MrBond]

aliveandkicking's keepin' up with her DB kungfu-ing! WAAA DAAA!

[FaithfulH]

Well, Kevin? I agree with Aliveandkicking. It's all you now! When are you gonna start that thread? You don't have to wait 'till this one locks up. Show us a little bit of you...tonight! Then again it's your thread so do whatever you want!