I hate my H

[Done in VA]

The things that we think will make it "all better" don't usually help us at all. What does him leaving solve other than the immediate issue of him being "unhappy"? He will still a father. He will still have to provide for his family. He will still have responsibility's. He will still have to interact with HVA.

I can see your point with the Stewart Smally reference. And I totally agree that leaving will not make it all better.

I also have to tell you that I went back & read your thread. What a cliffhanger! I could never really find info on how you got your wife back. I felt like I was reading a novel, like when you moved out, I was screaming in my mind - no don't do it! Fortunately I knew there was a happy ending.