He asked your permission to get serious? Wow. Thats great.
Glad the graduation went well. Nice that H and exh survivied it too. Who wants to worry about that?
I think your M is taking great steps and both you and your H are trying so hard. Just be patient I am sure it will all work out in the end and you will have a better M.
Me: 46 FWS: 36 Married and Divorced 4/07, Pregnant 7/07,False R 7/07 Baby Girl born 3/08 Kicked him out because OW: 7/08 5/10 He realized what he had and lost. Moved home! REMARRIED 3/14/11!!
Wow Kass, sounds like you had a great day...all of you
I wouldn't have felt bad booing the teachers..spoilsports!
Good news on the tests as well. 2009 just might be the year when it all comes together again for you. I sure hope so.
My bankcruptcy came through last week, so I am now a single penniless 50 year old Great though as I can now plan the rest of my life from the ground up. A total new start!
Yes, things feel very good and progressing. Yesterday and today H blew me away with some feedback that I wasn't expecting - in the past I felt that H was criticizing me for the way my exh, my kids, behaved which often started arguments. Now I am hearing that he feels I take too much of the responsibility for others and don't catch a break. He wishes everyone would just take more responsibility for themselves and recognizes now how much I have to do to get things accomplished around the house etc.
Set a move in date the last week of Sep. So I will have one month between kids moving out and H moving back in. I am actually looking forward to it all. I didn't think I would see this day.
Well V, I am glad too. While I relied a lot on others to get to this point, I searched you out for a reason. Thanks for responding so graciously when I posted awhile back.
Kass you are our success story. It has taken you so much to get to this point. One time we even lost you for awhile. Glad you are back and glad that you and your H are doing so well. He really seems to be trying and that is so positive as we all know we can't do it alone!
Me: 46 FWS: 36 Married and Divorced 4/07, Pregnant 7/07,False R 7/07 Baby Girl born 3/08 Kicked him out because OW: 7/08 5/10 He realized what he had and lost. Moved home! REMARRIED 3/14/11!!
Yeah, I have to remember that I almost bolted for good. I was so tired of being disappointed by him. I also made the mistake of thinking that once the drinking stopped everything would instantly change. It took awhile for the change to occur. Where I was taken aback also was his persistance in this R. He could have walked away just as much as I could.
I am also learning so much, his problem was much worse than I suspected. But he is such a different man without the A in him. He is peaceful, easygoing, and caring. Responsibility is still a struggle for him but he pushes himself on that one. These are things I didn't know about him. We actually have a better R than ever and it is early yet, his sponsor says he will change a lot more to come. I can tell his processing is much different than before. A lot of that behavior you see in your exh, SO2, is the A.
Kassie I wish you could tell that to my W now that I have quit drinking. I have tried to tell my W all the problems that were related to the drinking. But in one ear and out the other.
Kevin
Me 36, W 37 M: 08/02/97 D13, D9 1st Bomb 02/08 Reconciled 04/08 2nd Bomb: 09/08 W filed for D 02/04/09 Separated 03/09 D dismissed 06/09/09 Still separated...
Hi K - how long have you been sober? Congrats by the way for your change! I know it is hard. What is the sitch with you and your W? It looks a bit complicated. But it also looks like there is a chance to show her what I am talking about?
I would love to tell your W to give you a chance and listen. What does she know about A? How willing is she to learn? Do your actions match what you say? What have you done to convince her and how much is she taking in?
I will admit that I had to be just as willing to work on the R as H is, otherwise I probably wouldn't get it. Something I haven't really talked about much here is that we always thought that we had an incredible connection that kept us together no matter what.
Me: 46 FWS: 36 Married and Divorced 4/07, Pregnant 7/07,False R 7/07 Baby Girl born 3/08 Kicked him out because OW: 7/08 5/10 He realized what he had and lost. Moved home! REMARRIED 3/14/11!!
for awhile. Glad you are back and glad that you and your H are doing so well. He really seems to be trying and that is so positive as we all know we can't do it alone!