Make sure you know what the child's doctor's name is and how to get ahold of him/her, and that you know what insurance card to use, etc. Then if something comes up, YOU can quickly step in and say "I'm all over it, made him an appointment for tomorrow".
When a man lets the wife take control over all of the deepest parts of caregiving, he shows her he is "incapable" of dealing with big issues or emergencies. Bad.
Open doors, pay compliments, but don't expect things back. You do these things because you are a gentleman and because you ooze confidence. When someone oozes confidence, they do not need to be stroked and are happy to stroke their wife for no reward. See, a "cad" or a "pirate" will happily stroke your wife at any time and he knows that the stroking itself is his reward...YOU NEED TO BE that confident. Does that make sense? We get turned on when a "cad" is coming on to us because he doesn't care if we don't. He's coming at us that way no matter what the outcome is, BECAUSE he is serving himself, which is a turn on to us.
If you are church going, take the lead and make sure the family goes to church sometimes or more often, or whatever you feel is right in your family. If you are not church going, then make sure you take time to take your family on short day trips to see museums or something that promotes culture. "Show" your family what you want them to see and learn and experience. This involves you being interested in something, taking initiative, and also being a leader, in a way that your family benefits from.
Keep your vehicle clean, and stand up straight, smile a lot, appear confident. Wear good shoes and make sure they look sharp.
When you catch yourself seeking approval, just calmly back down and take a moment to regroup. Don't fall all over yourself to fix it. Remember that its confidence that we women go ga-ga for, so if you make a mis-step, don't overstep the correction. Don't watch her face constantly for her reactions to things. Do read up on communication and body language to help you understand her, but do not "watch" her face...we women know this feeling. It means he can't make a decision and wants someone else to do it for him. Sometimes we love it - to be included in decisions - and even sometimes, we need to make the decision without you. But for the most part, take the lead and don't "watch" her reactions, just read her real communication.
Drop the being nervous, too, if that is a habit for you. Develop skills to manage it
