Separated for 3 weeks now

[Ready2Change]

I read a post where it said I need to be selfish, but I have been selfish the whole time and need to treat my wife and daughter better if she will give me the chance.

I only have control over my thoughts, words, and actions. I pass out what I want to receive. If I need more support, I support more people. If I want more smiles, I smile at more people. If I want more people interested in me, I become more interested in them. This is a law of nature. During this difficult time in my life, the last thing that I would do is to be selfish. I found that being patient and kind to others (especially the people I care about the most) has been working great. Forgiving others (especially my X) for every thing I feel they do against me helped me tremendously.

The best thing I did was let W do what she needed to do, while doing what was best for my kids. You may want to go read my earlier threads for some ideas......

Hang in there. Everything happens for a reason and you will be OK. Be the best dad you can right now. Your wife is in a fog and you need to be there for your kid........