Took me a long time to find this thread. for one thing, I forgot that it was in piecing. I spend more time in Newcomers and Infidelity so I was looking there.
Anyway, 25 years MLC, my story is written out pretty fully here with a lot of info on what it's like to go to Retrouvaille. I can't imagine trying to piece after a serious event like an affair without it. They insisted on the forgiving and the trusting, without waiting for the feelings to just come. And they were completely right.
