Hey confused Keep your chin up. Make some decisions. Take the ball out of her hands and you play your game, the way you want to. If she wants the divorce tell her she can do all the work for it. But make it clear you want to be up to date about what's going on....no secret crap. Make it clear it's not what you want but you deserve to know what's going on. Make sure she's a woman about all of this. And I agree, if she brings up divorce while you've got this going on, ask her to have a heart right now and give you a break. You've got some more pressing immediate matters at hand. Keep your cool.
