Not trying to highjack your thread, Bagheera but I wanted to pm you but I don't seem to be allowed too.
so anyway, you helped me quite a bit a few months ago and I now have a male friend that has joined and could really use your advice. if you are willing he is newcomers catagory and is really withdrawn and doing alot of the "wrong" things thus far.
if you could pm me, I can give you his screen name
