Do you have any other specific suggestions for how I could start leading more, beyond what you said in your post? What kinds of things did you do once you figured this out? Do you think I will need some of the right kind of therapy to really get it right, or is it something I can figure out how to do on my own?
Not knowing you or her beyond what you've posted, no.
However, there are resources out there that you can read and work to apply. Get all you can out of Glover's NMMNG book. Ask your support group about this. Bring it up with your therapist. A quick look on Amazon came up with:
I haven't read either, although I know that Jayce has recommended this second one, and I'm sure there are other books out there too. If you didn't develop these skills growing up, study them and then little by little begin to incorporate them.
-- B.
Me 50, W 45, M for 26 yrs S25, D23, S13, S10 20+ year SSM; recovery began Oct 2007
