No matter what she does (stonewalling, for example,) know that she is taking it in. She is taking everything in. Every word and every action. Continue doing good things for yourself and making an effort to make her happy. She can see it, and she will be forced to reckon with it eventually.
I'm not advising you to be a puppy dog, as I wholly agree with Bagheera about you displaying confident leadership. Do what feels right and good, without reading and monitoring her reaction. Just put good solid "stuff" out there and leave it alone.
