What if, in fact, WAW is not (and perhaps never was) "the one"?
Here's some genius writing- "the one" is the one who you choose to be "the one" and who chooses to be "the one" back and I think that's the whole unromantic kit and kaboodle.
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What if there's a kind of inevitability being played out here?
Oh ya, it was inevitable. Just went on a whole rant about whatever happened is what needed to happen...but, as in Schnarch's book, what is the end-point of the inevitable? Is it R and an improved M? Is it D? Is it D and then R? Is it D and then re-M and then D again? There are folks who D and remarry 30 years later and I'm sure they would say it was inevitable.
You aren't going to be able to wrap this up until you're an old man and looking back..."huh, that was inevitable."
I'm bonkers today.
Maybe try to "chill" as you intuited you need to particularly on trying to formulate what is happening here. You are too disciplined for that. It's kids stuff.
