One of the frustrations, I think, that @BTB, @Gardener, @pollyanna, and @aliveandkicking have in their sitch's is that their WAS's don't "seem" to be experiencing any negatives in that "all" that is "all about them." (Though @alive recently opened up a can of Mojo on her H who suddenly seems not to be so cool after all.... And bully for her!)
Tangent Alert-
To my fellow sufferers of apparent disadvantage and disproportionate loss...the key is looking at your position within your own paradigm. If I am driving a beat up clunker, working at CVS and honoring myself and my kids, I am STILL better off than H based on what I care about. So, with that as my starting point, the only way to go it is up...and yes, opening up a can of mojo helps because you are changing the dynamic. Doesn't mean they'll feel the loss any more or less but it does reinforce that no other person can define your life's meaning for you.
Thinking of all of those who have suffered the worst indignities and injustices to emerge not just intact but exceptional human beings. And I don't mean to compare us because in the bigger scheme we are dealing with small potatoes here...but, it is good to know what is possible.
