Thanks for posting diane74... I have been thinking alot about my timeline, and it has been a relatively short process so far...we started having big issues in March and H left in April. So, I will give myself more time, although it is silly to put an actual date. My MC told me to re-evaluate that each and every day. "If things stay the same as they are RIGHT NOW, how long am I good for???" The only problem is that things never stay the same, they are wildly changing and swinging in all different directions. I am of course referring to my emotions. But when I go back to the basics of my MC's question...it slows and calms me down. I have thought about giving him that tough question and I do have a timeline for that...another month when my lease is up, I may feel it out for a little pressure if my DBing continues to show progress. We'll see, alot can (and will) happen in a month! Thank you for your encouragement! Off to check out your sitch!
I think it is so helpful to set points for re-evaluation. There is a great likelihood that your H will come back to you. ONLY you can determine how long you will wait. However since we DBers don't just "wait," we GAL and work on ourselves it is only positive to "wait" or "stand" as it is referred to here. You don't need another R right now anyway. You need a little boost in self esteem here and there...but there is so much for you to work on.
I dare say, forever is too long for me, it just is. At least as a starting point. I learned long ago that my line in the sand moves and that's ok but it makes me feel better to set those re-evaluation lines.
