How beautiful that the universe brought you and Mrs. Baggy together. The pairing of her avoidance and your craving is divine.
Ugh...divine, as in "divine retribution" or "divine torture"?
As DQ has talked about before, SSM's wouldn't exist if HD's would only pair with other HD's and LD's only with LD's. Life, however, doesn't work that way and instead we get these frustrating HD/LD combos.
My church would say something along the lines of: but the HD/HD and LD/LD combos would lead to little personal growth in the area of closeness and intimacy, while the HD/LD combination forces each partner to grow and develop in order to stay together and make the marriage work (with those failing to do so ending up with affairs, parallel-life marriages or divorce).
If my wife and I pull this off, and the chances are very good now that we shall, then I'll bow to the church's POV (that life's challenges are purposefully set before us so that we can achieve are greatest growth and potential). However, if our recovery efforts ultimately fail, I would do my utmost to ensure that my next partner is as much of a touch and intimacy nut as I am....only to have some OTHER major issue crop up, of course...
-- B.
Me 50, W 45, M for 26 yrs S25, D23, S13, S10 20+ year SSM; recovery began Oct 2007
