I find myself asking for permission and I think it is because it is a way of softening rejection. The problem is, it also increases the likelihood of rejection and doesn't send a message of confidence that my wife (and I think most women) wants to see in her man.
My answer to your question is in your second paragraph. Do exactly what you were doing but skip asking for permission.
CB
Me; 42, W; 43 M; 16 yrs S12, D9
3/13 - "I want to move to XYZ City (four hours away) and it might be without you, not sure" 5/13 - "Not sure I meant that"
