I hate my H

[Done in VA]

Yes. Well "prepare" has many definitions. Running, Walking, Sleeping, Eating, Constructive Deconstruction. I can't define "prepare" for you. You have to define it. Again you need something to pull your mind out of this situation. Trust me.. it will start slow. But you will find "something" if you really look. You will know it when you find it. Are you looking?

Okay - I just wasn't sure if you were meaning "legally" prepare. Although I have done my research here too.

My wife hated me when we first met. Thought I was a sarcastic SOB. The bomb kinda felt the same way. To a point you could say he still "likes" you. He is still there.

We were the opposite, H liked me, I was not attracted to him. When we first started MC in Feb , H said - I like her. Then we had a cruise planned for March, H still wanted to go, said he thought we'd have fun - we still did things together at this point. Although I wasn't DBing & constantly talking about R. By the time I started DBing in April, he had pulled away from me completely. He'll still do things such as call to ask if I want something while he is out. If he is getting a cup of coffee, he will get me one. Things like that.

"Anyone have any suggestions on breaking the ice with him?"

Don't. Let him come to you. Sounds silly doesn't it?

"Should I try to talk to him more or just leave him be?"

Talk about random stuff. I had a talk with my wife today about me swimming at the pool in my underwear and making her mad (It was a dream she had). Then there was a elephant that got involved and it made no sense after that. We laughed about it.

I am confused here. You told me to let him break the ice, but for me to talk about random stuff??? Which do I do? Or do you mean, once he initiates conversation, to feel free to talk about random stuff.

The biggest + you have is he is still there.. and going to MC.

Do you think MC is beneficial? I think this week has been a horrible week SINCE MC. I feel like we have regressed. Up until we went, I thought things were OK. Maybe I just have to learn how to respond in the MC session better.