D1 was doing well this morning. I got down on my knees and held my arm out and she came up and hugged me. She played around for a bit, let me hold her, and cried when I left.
Pretty much what I'm looking at right now is delay game tactics by W's attorney. Quite frankly they are delaying the inevitable. I have no intention of avoiding trial and I'm not afraid of anything they have to throw at me. My attorney assures me that he will approach the judge if they do not show up for deposition and do not participate in the psych evaluation, but I think he has a hard time believing she won't do it.
I suppose I am getting ahead of myself to a point. I just won't be surprised if she doesn't show. June 30 will tell another story of avoidance I'm sure.
We'll see what the Judge thinks if they haven't completed the evaluation.
"You can't reason someone out of a position they didn't reason themselves into."
I surely hope someone that's picked for the eval with specialize in BPD- not all Pdocs do. BPDs are such brilliant actresses that they often fool people for years- and I think it takes a qualified person to sniff that out.
I'd just let this one slide, DC. I know it sucks, and it's WRONG, but I just don't think it's worth the aggravation right now considering the stronger hand you're holding.
I'd just let this one slide, DC. I know it sucks, and it's WRONG, but I just don't think it's worth the aggravation right now considering the stronger hand you're holding.
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Not much else I can do. Guess we will see if her attorney is bold enough to burn a continuance with the Judge.
"You can't reason someone out of a position they didn't reason themselves into."
Had a good time with D1 today. Took her to the mall, then went to visit some family I have in the area. She had a great time, picked her up some glazed donuts she tore into pretty good.
Pickup/Delivery went fine with W/MIL. They seem to be trying to kill me with kindness now - and meanwhile I turn around and do the same.
Nobody has once mentioned the psychological stuff... it is as if they are in denial they actually have to do that. Even W's attorney doesn't talk about it.
Bizarre.
"You can't reason someone out of a position they didn't reason themselves into."
Had a good time with D1 today. Took her to the mall, then went to visit some family I have in the area. She had a great time, picked her up some glazed donuts she tore into pretty good.
Or, as we call 'em when the red neon light is on, "FAT NOW!"
I started to break down for the first time since the separation while I was in my IC session today. I was speaking with my therapist and she asked me what I would say to W since I had iterated it was pointless to discuss anything with her because she didn't have remorse or thoughts of anyone but herself.
I tried to start the hypothetical conversation several times but failed... then ended up discussing how this was going to affect my children. Then I just stopped talking and had to compose myself. My eyes welled up a bit, but I managed to hold it back and get things back under control. I am human at least...
I'm not certain what road things are taking... we are around 18 days from the trial date the judge set. We are 6 days from W's last deposition date. If she skips this one I'm just going to focus on filing a request for admissions because that would at least give them a time limit (30 days) to get discovery information in order or else the items in the request for admissions would be deemed "admitted."
Everything seems to be going my way... but in the end the court process is fairly impotent at first. I imagine the next week will set the tone. I want to get things in front of the judge a.s.a.p. despite my lawyer's objections. We aren't doing the discovery footsy dance indefinitely.
"You can't reason someone out of a position they didn't reason themselves into."
I tried to start the hypothetical conversation several times but failed... then ended up discussing how this was going to affect my children. Then I just stopped talking and had to compose myself. My eyes welled up a bit, but I managed to hold it back and get things back under control. I am human at least.../quote]
Saw D1 this morning. She was playing with the other kids, some of whom kept coming up to me and wanting to hand me various toys. D1 started getting agitated with them and kept coming up to hug me.
Saw W this morning... not sure if she is pregnant or just getting big all around. Definitely weight gain... which is very noticeable since she is only 5'1".
17 days 22 hours 44 minutes until the trial date the Judge set. Thus far: No attempt by W or her attorney to complete the psych eval. It is probably too late now for her to do so in time for trial. No attempt by W or her attorney to appear at deposition. Last possible date is June 30.
Right now I'm at the mercy of the delay machine... just going to have to see how things proceed with legal maneuvers.
"You can't reason someone out of a position they didn't reason themselves into."
