At the same token, are you approaching the opportunity as to 're-kindle' what you had (ie expectingit to be the same)?

If so, and utilizing stuck's statement to the same effect, that no longer is yours, but, what you do have is the chance to start over and be different about it.

Me 35/XW 33
S13 & S12
M: 10/17/98
OM & S: 07/08
D final 06/09/09
12/03/09 - 06/13/10 "Piercing"
06/13/10: Engaged to Re-marry 10/17/10
06/25/10: Expecting baby #3 2/14/11