Sorry I missed your call. I'm working with our Tech guy this summer and I was installing a system I guess when you called.
You are indeed caught in a whirlwind.
What does one do in such a situation?
You find something solid to latch on to Frank. You rely on your strength, your wits, your fortitude to outlast the whirlwind. You know that the whirlwind does not last forever and, in time, the calm will return.
Everyone here knows that you are not driving this legal process back and forth with your wife. We know that this is NOT the kind of man you would choose to be.
I look at you and your situation and realize that you are facing one of the most viscious onslaughts I can recall from a live-in spouse, particularly as regards her willingness to both use the children as pawns and ignore the pain she is bringing to them.
You can't stop the whirlwind Frank. It's a force of nature. You find a way to make it through, to protect your loved ones in the process. Desperate times sometimes require desperate measures. You certainly do NOT need to fear that any here stand pointing fingers at you for having to participate in her destructive games.
Guard yourself. Speak the truth. Shield your children, but remember that you can only shield them from so much. Know then that your love and nurturing of them in the future will heal any wounds that come their way from this mess.
She does NOT get to win Frank. Whatever you have to do to continually keep the table tilted in your favor, you must do. If she falses files against you, then you may need to counterfile against her. If you must endure the indignity of having people come in to your home to ensure your children are safe and well cared for, be glad that such an entity exists. While they are not needed for your children, they are likely needed for others.
Think of all of those who have faced great adversity and emerged changed for the better, who emerged stronger for having weathered their storms with dignity and honor. Those words we write at the end of so many posts are not some empty motto. They are what we strive for.
They are what so many of us have seen in you over and over again.
And they are your answer through this hell.
Blessings,
Bill
"Don't tell me the sky is the limit when there are footprints on the moon."
