You don't have to be angry. You don't have to storm off. You don't have to be vindictive. It's still possible to just calmly say that you know everything that's going on and you'd like her to leave. The new you doesn't have to be the exact opposite of the old you if it means that you have no boundaries. Even if the new you is a soft spoken sweetheart you can still be firm. If there is any interest in saving your marriage, I don't recommend you let her continue on until it's her idea for YOU to leave. You (and all the other LBSes on here) know firsthand the power of the bomb. I'd suggest you drop one, as calmly as possible.
You cannot be lonely if you like the person you're alone with. Dr. Wayne Dyer
