Bill I have thought about the MLC all though this past year. Like you said, some things would give me that impression...more recently than anything else. The past year has found us both out and acting a little crazy, but the past few months and her lies and deception have me wondering if it hasn't really just begun to kick in for her.
What I had always noticed and what does not make sense to me with the recent events is the fact that she still has not made any changes in her appearance(hair, which is a given for her), shows no interest in over or under dressing, and given the chance, still seems to prefer being home and relaxing more than anything else.
This all comes so closely with her interest in the alt univ. and the reconnection with old friends...male and female. She has pictures up and changes them regularly, but they are mostly head shots...sexy poses.
She has always been so unhappy with her physical appearance, and struggles with her weight, but I see no change in that the past few months...no dieting, exercise, new clothes, etc. If I had to say, it would be contrary to someone who is trying to make an impression, or has new friends..male or female.
Of course that may be because of our constant pace of going out, and all the partying. Like she has said, I had her under my control...kept her happy, drunk and occupied with all those good times...me and that damn gun I had pointing at her head every day.
Funny, how through all of this, I still feel some concern as I watch. The weight, diet and exercise thing. She has given up most interests in anything around the house, and has no regular schedule for any of the normal household chores.
What had begun for me last year...pitching in more and doing most times, more than my share has become habit for me.
For her the dinners and days spent making home cooked meals have all stopped. The house cleaning and laundry is done as needed, if I don't get to it first. Although since this all started, I concentrate on me, my daughter and the things that we need done.
Many of these things I had noticed over the past couple of months, I suppose and regret that I didn't pay more attention. Not that it could have made a difference, but maybe saved some of the months of lies.
As for the rest of your post...talking to her about who leaves and letting my daughter in on the current sitch.
Those weighed on me all day yesterday and I got a little off my chest...nothing major, but both subjects have been reopened.
I'll be back in a bit to finish that...at work and need to get off her for a while.
