I don't know about you but there are times where I am thankful exh split when he did...when baby was so young. I cannot imagine my exh or your H splitting when they were older and way more attached and being blown off like they are now. How hard that would be for the kids. My older kids and exh's kids had a tough time of it and they are not even his.
We have to have faith that our girls will see us as examples of what not to pick also on being tough and resiliant. K will know who has done everything for her. For example, exh's kids...the older one doesn't want to go over to his house anymore. Her mother has to force her to spend one night a week there. The younger one (12) goes out of guilt. She still wants to believe he is a good dad but he always lets her down. He also uses her emotions to make himself feel better when they withdraw "oh you don't love your dad". I fully expect that out of my exh when baby is older.
Just keep on being the great mom you are..
Oh and HAPPY BIRTHDAY K! Love you baby!
Me: 46 FWS: 36 Married and Divorced 4/07, Pregnant 7/07,False R 7/07 Baby Girl born 3/08 Kicked him out because OW: 7/08 5/10 He realized what he had and lost. Moved home! REMARRIED 3/14/11!!
also on being tough and resiliant. K will know who has done everything for her. For example, exh's kids...the older one doesn't want to go over to his house anymore. Her mother has to force her to spend one night a week there. The younger one (12) goes out of guilt. She still wants to believe he is a good dad but he always lets her down. He also uses her emotions to make himself feel better when they withdraw "oh you don't love your dad". I fully expect that out of my exh when baby is older. 