One of the points of LRT is to mind yourself. I`ve been doing that in lots of ways but I have to say that finding a really good therapist has been one of the best gifts of my LRT.
What is my role in this Crazy dance? why do I need to control everything from the marriage, to my H`s recovery?Why do I get so afraid so easily?
I`ve been to three counsellors before this. They sat, listened but didn`t challenge. This time I`ve a jungian therapist(don`t know if the jungian bit is important) who listens and challenges. I have found a great deal of calmness and tranquillity four sessions on which I feel is mainly due to this lady.
So my detaching from H as recommended by LRT is more real. My calmness is not acted either and I`m finally getting to a point where I`m not thinking obsessively about every little detail of our relationship.
I am begining to let go.
I have lots more work to do. I have to heal a lot of hurt in my life. I have to feel my fears, my reasons for them and let them go.I know this journey make even take me further away from H and the marriage but I`m begining to see that is may be okay too.
