It's strange. All anyone can do is try to the best of their ability. Accepting responsibility for their part in the deterioration of the relationship. Letting go of guilt and fear. Remembering that perfect love casts out fear. Becoming the person they're meant to be. Not whacking the divorcing/separating/leaving spouse. Offer 'treats'.. the positive changes, listening skills, hearing rather than reacting to what is said for better or worse.
And.. allowing the emotionally withdrawn spouse to initiate, to ask for what they need, not trying to fix them or fix things for them. Allowing growth with oneself.. and for the one you pledged your life during one of the most painful times in life.
*hugs*
Oops.. and being grateful for all the gifts in life, not what is feared lost.
