(If you know you won't reconcile, and no innocents would be harmed...I can see some very creative ways and reasons to expose...oh yeah...)
It's interesting that you bring this up, 25, because I'm actually of the opposite view. I (and most proponents of exposure) am ONLY in favor of exposure if you ARE trying to save the marriage. This came up yesterday on ndsmhlp's thread, and I advised him -- as I advise everyone -- that if you know you DON'T want to remain married, that I don't think he should expose, as he'd only be doing it out of vindictiveness.
Just thought I'd clarify that. Whether or not you believe in exposure, most of us that do, DO try to use it very much as a means to end the affair, REMAIN MARRIED, and to try and begin reconciliation sooner, rather than later. We do, however, acknowledge that while it may by sooner, there will now often be some additional damage that has been done, that will need to be worked thru, because we chose to expose.
I'll check out Stuck's thread -- thanks for the heads up.
