I know I have not heard your W's side of things....
Hi Sandi,
Here’s W side of things, she’s not been talking to me or engaging me in full conversation cos in her opinion, it was me Lan, who has not been talking to her, and this (again in her opinion) was since FIL had a episode of chest pains and had to go to ER.
Well from my side at the time W and I had a discussion about her internet chat and I got annoyed cos she just dismissed it as not important or anything to worry about. We left that conversation with me retreated in my shell still fuming that she was being very dismissive about something I was concerned about. Anyway later in the day W had left the house without saying a word . I only found out she was at ER with FIL cos BIL phoned me to find out what was going on I didn’t have a clue. Needless to say FIL was ok after some checks but W is still annoyed with me cos I didn’t ask in detail about FIL the next day so she’s held it against me for 3 weeks.
She said she’s been waiting for me to talk to her and more importantly ask more about FIL. I told her when I see that scowl on her face I know she (in my opinion) is unapproachable and is just looking for an opportunity to bite my head off , so I back off and give her space.
W said when we do talk it’s all about me, me, me, my problems, my fears, my work, my friends etc and I never ask her about her work, her feelings, her friends, I don’t listen to her and most important of all I didn’t ask her about FIL after she went to ER with him. In short she doesn’t think I care enough about her, FIL and what she is going through coping with his illness.
That’s it in short, I was gonna add more but it make me sound defensive, and takes away the balance in the account I’ve just given.
Oh, the PS to all of this is she did tell me about what went on with FIL at the hospital but her point was I didn’t ask first.
