I completely agree with what you're saying. When we first met I was very weary of her age but found after time that we really did seem to be on the same level as to what we wanted out of life. I even went so far as to bring up that I thought she should live her life a bit more and experience new things. She was having none of it though. She was adamant that she'd lived as much as she needed to but wanted nothing more than family life with children. It was her who convinced me she was ready for the commitment and in time I came to believe her.
People still comment to this day about how they can't believe how somebody who was so glowing and happy on her wedding day can suddenly uproot everything and desire a life alone as a single mother. These are people from her side of the family too.
Still, I can't help thinking that the whole idea she was striving for didn't quite turn out to be as much fun as she first thought. Just as you say. Her friends are still young, single and enjoying themselves on nights out without anything holding them back. In a way, I know I should shoulder some of the blame in marrying her when she was so young but trust me, I wasn't easily convinced.
So, as much as I'm in agreement with you Sandi, it still leaves us with nowhere to go. No matter how much DBing I manage, I'm not going to be able to make her age any quicker. I've been thinking about it a lot actually and I think eventually she may come around to liking the idea of married life once again but it's not going to be for a number of years and only when her friends start settling down to lives of their own. I know that sounds defeatest but it's honestly the way I see it. The question is, what do I do in the mean time?
Kev
Me: 32, Wife: 22 Son: 2 Married: 2 years Separated: January 5th 2009
Sometimes you have to become lost before you can find yourself.
