"Exposure" vs. "Shame"

[saffie]

I exposed big time. To one and all. I agree with Sara, the shame was all my H's.

I did explain that there had been trouble in the M that had led to my H's A and that he was by no way alone in having caused what happened.

You have to take each situation and judge it on it's own merits. For me exposure was the way to go.

My kids were 15,13,11 and 8 at the time. They knew what was going on although the 8yr old was not so in the picture. My 13yr old, unbeknownst to me contacted OW and told her exactly what she was doing to her family and what she thought of her.

We live in a small communiity. I was not going to hide what my H had done. If I hadn't exposed my H would have tried to get into a cake eating sitch and there was no way I would stomach that.

Exposure is tuff, you never know which way things will fall; it's like ripping off a plaster fast instead of soaking it off slowly. More pain up front but over more quickly hopefully.

My H and I are very happily reconciled now.